There seems to be a growing trend toward “burning bridges” as a form of self-assertion. It appears often, even celebrated, as though torching a connection is a mark of independence or strength.

Let’s pause and ask, “why?”
To satisfy an ego?
To prove a point?
To protect ourselves from discomfort?

The truth is simpler. We never know when a door might open again. By burning the bridge, we limit opportunity. By leaving it standing, even unused, we preserve possibility.

Years ago, I worked for an exceptionally brilliant executive director. At our staff meetings, he would always end with the same words: “Be nice. You never know who your next boss will be.”

That line has stayed with me for more than five decades. The wisdom is timeless. Being nice costs nothing, and it buys peace of mind, grace, and long memories in one’s favor.

When negotiating with a difficult client or agent, consider the value of restraint. Not every disagreement demands destruction. Some require distance, but distance is different from demolition.

Of course, there are rare situations that justify a clean break. Yet in my many decades of business—as an auditor, portfolio manager, director, Realtor®, and broker, I am grateful that I have resisted the temptation to light the match. The people who might have deserved the flame have long since forgotten, and those who would have cared might have turned away.

Fire is satisfying only for a moment. Bridges, however, can stand for a lifetime.

Be nice. Walk away. For now.